Men are considered superior to women due to their strong physical, emotional and psychological constitution. Its profound social and economic role in society has further increased its superiority. Since the beginning of time, it was believed that men occupied a higher pedestal only on the basis of physical strength, since they used to work to earn a living for their family, while women limited themselves to domestic chores without material remuneration.
It was beyond imagination that women could operate heavy machinery, carry out forced labor in the fields, transport heavy material, fight wars, fly jets, drive cars and perform dangerous or dangerous tasks. Social recognition is only granted to work that yields a quantifiable remuneration. Today, the use of technology, modern machinery and intelligence has reduced the impact of physical strength and women can now perform all tasks that were considered impossible for them. Needless to say, women have always engaged in prudent planning of household expenses, without any recognition or appreciation. Although women are now being recognized for their capabilities and contributions, it will still be a long time before their fundamental role is properly appreciated.
Women have failed to achieve their rightful place in society. They were not appreciated for their irreplaceable role in the family, the spirit of sacrifice, loyalty and devotion to the family. Most women sacrifice their lives for their home and fail to engage in any economic or social activity that painfully diminishes the recognition of their contribution. Even modern Western liberal societies have failed miserably to recognize the legitimate status and respect for women that they truly deserve. Women are extremely emotional in nature and sometimes these overwhelming emotions prevent them from achieving success in the world. This is the reason why it is an observed fact that unsuccessful women are exhibiting enormous leadership and management skills, but are not achieving the desired results. Women who live in villages and the outskirts of large cities work hard in the fields, taking care of families and also livestock, but receive no recognition or salary for their efforts.
It is a sad fact that women who shine in a particular tangible field are able to gain recognition, while their irreplaceable intangible contribution in maintaining homes, building families, educating and raising children and supporting men in the achievement of worldly deeds remains without reward and without compensation. It is surprising to note that even uneducated women are notable administrators, resourceful in budgeting, visionary and extremely diplomatic in planning their children’s future. Napoleon rightly said: “Give me good mothers and I will give you a great nation”.
The relationship between husband and wife is extremely complicated. It is extremely sad that women are judged on the basis of their conduct, understanding and behavior just as wives. Against the general perception, women are extremely sensitive, loyal and hardworking. They turn homes into skies, meet the needs of everyone in the house, support and encourage men in difficult times, explore the best ways to spend austerity, endure the difficulties of childbirth and education are some of the most arduous tasks they perform.
My mother Zaitoon Begum was like that too. I was just two months old when my father Rafi Butt died in a plane crash in 1948, at the age of 39. This catastrophe changed our lives overnight. We were two brothers, a brother and a sister. Our mother refused to marry, despite enormous pressure from the whole family. She was extremely insecure. I was not allowed to play outside, but my friends could come and play with me. On school days, my mother or aunt waited outside until school was over. My mother, who was not very polite or skilled and never wanted me to be out of sight, made the difficult decision to send me to Lawrence College Ghora Gali just for my better future. To protect me from the emotional trauma of being an orphan, my mother always assured me that my father was a successful businessman who was living in the United States on business. At the age of 14, it occurred to me that my father had martyred himself a long time ago. She always spoke to me about the personality, services, achievements, connections, relationships and feelings for the nation of Rafi Butt and consciously inspired me to develop these characteristics in my personality. She never mentioned that Rafi Butt was a rich man, but she always reiterated that he was a noble and respectable man. She always said that she had learned a lot from Rafi Butt in her seven years of happy marriage. Quaid-e-Azam and renowned politicians, statesmen, bureaucrats, businessmen, poets, writers and journalists were his personal friends. I was not sure of my future at the time and sometimes ignored his speech, but now I realize that my mother has instilled the milestones of prominence and success in my mind, otherwise, I am afraid to live a normal life with trivial goals. Although my mother never achieved surprising achievements in social, economic or political terms, she was definitely a super woman, as she ensured that her son had a broad vision and set a high benchmark with challenging goals for himself.
It was my mother who made me fall in love with my father and his idol Quaid-e-Azam. It instilled a sense of belonging and nationalism in me. She turned me into a true humanitarian and Pakistani. When I look back, I can conclude that all my success and achievements are due to my mother’s wishes and prayers and I know that she is smiling at me from heaven. Despite being a housewife, she was really a superwoman.